Category: Homemaking Basics For Successful life

Apr 17

How to Overcome the Fear of Missing Out!

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Do you feel like you are missing out on peace?

Do you feel like you are missing out on peace?

Ever feel like you’re missing out on happiness?

Do you wish your success would come already? We can overcome this fear of loss and missing out with a change of mindset. Listen and learn how it’s done with a simple method of belief.

How to overcome the fear of missing out! by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

We don’t have to miss out any longer. I shared a story about growing up in chaos and my desire for peace. I felt like I was missing out on so many things. Of course, as an adult, I’ve learned to adjust but my life would have been so different if I had known how to think about timing of what I wanted.

Do you feel like you are missing out on success?

Do you feel like you are missing out on success?

Missing out on success

For years, with all the misunderstandings I had about my self worth, I had no clue about how to feel a sense of success. But as time progressed slowly, with knowledge I gleaned from books, prayer and experience, I came to see that timing is perfect. Today is the day of your success as you believe it to be. No more waiting and missing out on success.

Missing out because of circumstances

For years, I experienced circumstances that left me feeling like I would never get to the lifestyle of peace that I wanted. My saving grace came when I returned to faith and family. Getting married and having children, I had a sense of purpose and finally I used my experiences and knowledge to direct myself to be a good mom and wife. My environment was peaceful for the most part. My children were gentle and I maintained peace in my home, which was my ultimate goal. Later, when we moved, chaos was stirred up again and I had to learn more about myself so I could feel at peace again.

Do you feel like you are missing out on the right circumstances??

Do you feel like you are missing out on the right circumstances??

No longer feeling like I’m missing out

When I discovered a concept that there is no such thing as “waiting” and that waiting meant a lack of faith, I was stirred to dig further. As you listen to the podcast here, you’ll discover the fine line of belief needed to stop oneself from feeling like you are missing out on one more thing.

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Feb 19

How To Overcome Regrets In Life

Do you regret things in your life?

How many times have you woken up thinking “I should have done this! I should have done that?” Did it ever help you?

How to overcome regrets in life by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

[pullquote align=” right” textalign=” right” width=”30%”]Life is too short to wake up with regrets.
Love the people who treat you right and forget the ones who don’t.
Believe that everything happens for a reason.
If you get a chance, take it.
If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody said that life would be easy.
They just promised that it would be worth it.[/pullquote]

What does our past teach us about life?

We sometimes have beliefs about people.  We can learn from our parent’s beliefs alternate ways we desire to live.  Many of us formed beliefs as children that inhibit us from a prosperous future. Some of us desire to learn from our past and try not to repeat it.

Taking responsibility for our own life, should we take time to judge the motives of others? After all, we haven’t walked in their shoes? If we have ever ended a relationship due to beliefs you had about that person, we may regret that error in judgment after a while.

Most of the time, our regrets are caused by our beliefs. If we know someone who has failed or we have failed ourselves, regretting is another way of punishing ourselves. When we come to that place where we say “why did I do that?”, it’s like yelling at the child for spilling the milk. Instead, we ought to set up a belief that feeling badly for spilling the milk is a poor error in judgment. We are punishing ourselves and this error shows up in regret.

We can be our own best friend though it may be difficult to figure out what that looks and feels like. Why? Because  we may have grown up with a belief that we are sinners, or that we are not perfect. Perhaps we’ve been told we’ll never amount to anything. Additionally, we may have beliefs formed earlier in life resembling those above. Later as adults, we received accolades that we are so wonderful. But we may not be able to receive those compliments because we don’t believe that about ourselves. So sad.

Developing better beliefs that match our present abilities and enhance dreams for our future will help us achieve them much more quickly.  This can help you achieve happiness today.

Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?

War, tragedy, marital breakup, fatal sickness, and things like these seem to be signs of great failure. But there is another better way to see these events and circumstances. But do you know how to?

Keep our thoughts at home where they belong. We have enough to do in a day to judge our own thoughts, actions, ideas and beliefs. By judging others, we are basically judging ourselves.

Being mature is the goal in life. As we attain to maturity, we learn from our experiences. We gain knowledge through coaches and teachers as well as books on the subject of our desires.

Changes in life

Have you ever felt out of control when changes occurred? Most of us have felt this when we have no rules set up for what must happen in order for us to feel happy. Without rules for happiness, changes may appear bad. However, changes are a turn in the road. That change could be what takes you to a better place, a better relationship, a better job or home. For some reason, we insist that changes are “done to us”. This victim mentality indicates that we have not set up the necessary rules for happiness.

We can set up rules that make it very easy for us to succeed and difficult for us to fail. But these must take that place of rules set up earlier by well meaning parents or teachers. Parents who encourage their children to succeed may set up a belief that a “B” is good but an “A” is better. A child may need to get an “A” in order to feel successful. Again, this sad state adults find themselves in make it difficult for them to feel successful because the rules they made for what success looks like.

 

A good rule might be “if I have learned something from it, then I have success”. Therefore it makes it easy to achieve. Additionally, we can treat our own children with the same belief and create a rule in our family to foster a feeling of success if something is learned by an experience. A child will begin to look for things they learned so that they feel successful. So simple, this rule will not lead to regret.

[pullquote align=”left|center|right” textalign=”left|center|right” width=”30%”]Are you living a balanced life? Sacrifice is good but balance is better because self love always must preceed loving others in order to really help others.[/pullquote] If you are in good health, body, mind and spirit, you are going to be the most helpful, beneficial influence for others.

What were you born to do?

We were born to grow like a plant, to expand our leaves and bear fruit and provide shade for others. If life is easy, we are not growing. This could mean, we begin to die slowly. Those who retire may no longer want the stress or challenge that comes with life, but will soon come to death without the desire to expand. Life is no meant to be “hard”. Our life should be a continual process of growing. This belief will help us to live a balance life while loving ourself and others.

How to overcome regrets in life by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

So what makes life worth it?

Our life’s goal is to live a balanced life, loving ourselves and others. We should look at our experiences as things to learn from. To achieve harmony by taking chances in life,  we grow and develop. Our words and actions become our fruit. Our experiences are like the stalk or trunk. Our life should make a great impact on the world around us.

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Jan 29

What Is Numerology And How Can It Help Me Feel Successful?

numerology is a science

Numerology is a science

Numerology and childhood

Many of us are taught early on to fear the unknown and listen only to what our church believes? Some of us want to know more and we sense that the truth is out there somewhere. With wisdom and experience, we gather knowledge from many sources and help ourselves feel successful while living a well rounded balanced life. Numerology is one source that may help.

What is Numerology and how can it help me? by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

Science of Numerology

For your FREE Numerology Reading,Click Here!

When I was in college, a guy came to me one night chanting all this stuff about how numbers could tell you about yourself and I didn’t understand, nor did I feel confident about it. My upbringing never entertained anything but prayer to help me know about my future. Most of it would remain unknown. When I was a kid, my sister had a friend who was a “medium”. This woman freaked me out. She wore too much makeup and they shut the lights out to do a sayounce. I knew it was wrong and it frightened me. Someone in 6th grade brought a wee gee board to school and they played around with it asking questions about when our teacher would get married. This too struck me as something powerful but the source, unknown. I shyed away from those things and sought prayer along for assistance with my future.

Numerology and the church

If you were brought up in the Catholic religion, you would have heard that things of this nature were of the devil and if you practiced them, you would go to hell. In my experience even as a young adult, pastors who preached “claiming” things as theirs were said to be “off” and should be feared and stayed away from. Numerology is a science and not a religion. The bible is said to be filled with numbers. The middle book of the bible has significance. The numbers of the books means something else. It’s been discovered that the numerology was discovered over 4000 years ago when someone found symbols on the underside of a tortoise shell.

The only piece of wisdom I discovered in my investigation I share in my audio. It has to do with the way they come up with one’s personal numbers. Your life path, expression, and soul urge numbers are one of the 5 prime numbers, 1,3,5,7, or 9. In the free mini reading, you get your numbers and an explanation in several paragraphs. When I read one statement, I actually teared up because I felt that “someone” actually understood me on the inside. This gave me some confidence in the reading.

Is Numerology safe?

One of the comments I read on the sales page stated that only “part” of what the report said was spot on. This helped me to keep an open mind and proceed with caution. I tend to trust spiritual things because people who study things of this nature are generally honest. Few people would risk sharing information that would harm others because they realize that they reap what they sow and this is one area we must be careful not to sow bad seed into others. Some call this “karma”. The Holy Bible calls it “reaping”.

If you seek truth and want to learn more, listen as I share quick tips about numerology.

What is Numerology and how can it help me? by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

For your FREE Numerology Reading,Click Here!

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Dec 18

How To Find Happiness By Using Social Media

Happiness is an emotion

How Can I Have Happiness?

How Can I Have Happiness?

 

How happy are you? How sad do you get? People have a varying states of happiness and during the holidays it seems to be exaggerated! High highs during parties, and low lows when you are home alone without family.

Lost a job and can’t buy gifts or have no time to shop because you are working like crazy to finish up projects before the holiday break! No matter what it is… what can help you feel better is to be an encouragement to others.

 

Happiness Is Where Your Friends Are!

Happiness Is Where Your Friends Are!

Happiness Is On Facebook

Facebook is great place to find happiness. Use Facebook to help you feel better during the holidays and re-post something funny to help your friends in need!

The holidays are sad for a lot of people who really need happiness. Those who use the power of the internet can watch YouTube videos, read interesting and inspiring articles, or read updates from friends on Facebook or other sites they subscribe to. Don’t let the holidays find you sad or alone.
Happiness Is A Mouse Click AwayHappiness Is A Mouse Click Away

Happiness Is A Mouse Click Away

Happiness is in your hands

 

Using social media, email, or the internet, you can find happiness and give a gift of encouragement to those who need it. The holiday season is meant to help us connect with a feeling of happiness and those we love. If your children live far away, use Skype or Facebook to keep in touch with them. Don’t let Christmas find you alone. Connect with others using the technology given as a gift to the earth. Have faith.
For a heartwarming tale of happiness with a moral, for kids and adults alike, download or read “The Undecorated Christmas Tree” story at http://carynelizabeth.com/blog/the-un…

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Dec 17

The Undecorated Christmas Tree And Help For Feeling Forgotten

Every Christmas Tree Is Special

Christmas time is filled with sparkle around most homes and towns. Lights, candles, wreaths, tinsel, garland, ornaments, toys, window shopping, even parades..  But there was once a Christmas tree that felt forgotten.

 

Every Christmas Tree Is Special!

Around Christmas, the family took out their decorations and hung lights outside on window wreaths. Inside, the garlands were lighted and laid out across the buffet and the mantle. The candles were placed on the Christmas table cloth and the little candle wreaths were laid carefully atop the glass holders. The 3 foot decorated Christmas tree was removed from the storage closet and placed carefully on the buffet where it was plugged in and ready to celebrate.

 

Everything was looking great! The spotlights outside shown on the bare leafed trees and towards the front door covered with Christmas garlands and pine cones. Inside the bare Christmas tree was left opened and standing but without any decorations.

 

This beautiful tree , quite frankly, felt abandoned. Everyone passed by it day after day not even noticing it’s beautiful branches. It’s smell was vibrant yet it longed for attention. Several days passed and the Christmas tree thought she  heard word of new lights! “Perhaps those lights will be for me”, she said! “I love getting presents and that would make me even more beautiful so that everyone would look at me.” This tree had a problem, you see!

 

The problem of the Christmas tree

 

Christmas trees pretty much look alike. Some are tall and others small. But all of them have similar green branches. The only difference the tree can bare is it’s outward appearance. Some trees get very beautiful adornment while others get the bare essentials. But in the end, it’s not even the tree that gets the most attention. It’s the gifts under the tree that are given top priority.

 

So what is the tree to do?

 

The Christmas tree knows full well that the short life it has to be adorned is it’s crowning glory! This tree longs for it’s adornment yet it seems so long in coming. In the mean time, the simple branches are left to hang bare and wanting. Well, finally the day came when the glory of Christmas would shine through the lights and garlands this tree would bare. She indeed was correct. Those lights were for her! The Christmas practitioners wanted to adorn her with fresh lights and garlands to make her glory even brighter than in the past! The day came and she could feel alive and vibrant as each light and ornament was carefully hung to make the tree fuller and brighter! Oh, when each ornament was hung, she stood strong and held on to each as if it were life and death. Each piece of tinsel sparkled as she held her lights firmly in hand as if to jump rope with them. When the tree was finally finished the feeling of heaviness came over the tree. She knew the time was coming and she must have some water to keep her strength. Would she be fed or neglected?

 

The neglected Christmas tree

 

The feeling of neglect overwhelmed the Christmas tree this season. She worried that she would not be decorated. Now she worried that she’d not have her needs met. Would she have to drop some ornaments to get attention and quench her thirst? The following morning, after a restless night upholding her perceived burdens, the Christmas practitioner awoke and turned on the radio and some Christmas music. The Christmas tree was aroused with hope and the caregiver walked by. Plugging in the Christmas lights, the caregiver disappeared to the kitchen and returned with a large container. “Ahhhh, water”, thought she. And in no time, her strength mounted and she felt the refreshment that only water can bring.

 

Christmas day

 

In time, the tree held many packages under it’s wings and protected everyone from onlookers. The children danced around it and begged mother to let them sleep under it the night before Christmas eve. What excitement the Christmas tree felt at that prospect. All eyes would be on her and she would feel terrific. There wish came true as they grabbed their sleeping bags, cookies and milk and lay at the foot of the tree looking at all the sparkles. Christmas tree was in her glory getting the attention she longed for and knew it was what she was born for!

 

The final stages came to be and Christmas day came. The tree released each gift with pride knowing her job was about complete. Her wish came true. She was adorned and she bore the responsibility well. In time, as trees know, they must be released back into the wilderness to assist the baring of other Christmas trees. Her day was complete and the Christmas caregivers dealt fairly with her through the whole process. She was satisfied with her work and Christmas was a success for her and for the family she shared it with.

 

Moral of the story: We may think poorly and we will sometimes. But we will be dealt with fairly as we allow ourselves to be aroused with hope for a prosperous future. Every Christmas Tree Is Special!

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Nov 25

8 Rules To Prepare You For Pain Of The Inevitable (Loss)

You See pain as a threat?

You see pain as a threat?

Pain And Panic

Most people have a firm foundation enough to be happy  with their life. However, when the inner life is threatened by too big a change for the comfort level of the outer life, a feeling of pain may be experienced. One threat to the comfort level may happen when a loved one dies. Listen to this Mixcloud podcast to hear more.

So how does one stop the pain? The inner life has a set of default rules it engages when their is such a  threat. The fight or flight response is effective for physical danger. However, when the outer life receives alarming news from a physician, a spouse, or a stranger for that matter, various  reactions can occur.

If rules are in place to manage the inner life’s vulnerability, the threat may be managed with a statement to halt or a manageable emotionally prepared response.

Sometimes an unemotional response occurs as a defense mechanism which the human has built into the brain. The experience may be too painful and the “shock” affect when at first experienced must be broken up into manageable bites. e.g. rape, unexpected death of a child.

The inner life speaks to the unknown god. The outer life prays desperately and religiously. The inner life must protect life. The outer life responds or reacts depending on the rules of emotional engagement set up by the inner life.

“If it doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger!”

This quote speaks of a “strength” one develops having experienced painful events. Do you agree with this quote? The strength of a person is really the manifestation of the rules set up in the inner life.  The “killing” has to do with the outer life, a physical event. What really occurs is that the inner life desiring to preserve itself, creates rules based on the severity of the pain. Every human has a choice to change those built in responses to those that serve them more responsibly.

What can one do today to manage a pain filled circumstance that comes to them?

Let’s assume there are 3 levels of pain. Determine ahead of time what rules to set up for each level of severity.
1. Loss of job – painful, loss of income, probably not life threatening.
2. Death of a loved one – very painful, final, closure.
3. Divorce – may be severely painful depending on circumstances, guilt, long lasting grief, change in lifestyle and family dynamics, may last a lifetime, closure rare.

Of the 3 levels, divorce is the most severe because the inner life continues to have to manage the outer life experiences.

Managing Pain

Setting up rules ahead of time for these 3 kinds of pain will prepare us so that shock is eliminated and anxiety is manageable.  What kinds of rules should we set up with our inner life?

1. We are born with adaptable instincts.
2. Our brains have the ability to keep pleasurable memories and visions of future happiness top of mind.
3. Our heart is protected by infinite intelligence (God). We can access the power of the unknown for peace and grace at all times.
4. It’s okay to not have all the answers. We do have control over how we manage our emotions so we are happy.
5. We choose to release anxiety over the unknown and enlist feelings of gratitude for ways this benefits us. We are not responsible for the unknown.
6. We choose 5 things to be grateful for at anytime. When experiencing painful or pleasurable events or circumstances, gratefulness becomes our window to happiness and peace.
7. We condition our thoughts regularly when we experience small moments of pain now and then, so we are more ready if or when greater pain occurs.
8. We state the inevitable in a once a year ritual while happy. Here are 3 examples.
a. ‘Our loved ones will die some day. I am prepared emotionally to manage my state so I am not shocked.’
b. Divorce is something I may experience and i am prepared to manage my emotions if it were to happen to me.
c. I may be laid off or fired from my job. I am prepared to manage my emotions and give myself permission to seek another job.

These rules and yearly rituals are helpful tools so that incidents of pain are traversed with power and control over our emotions. Create your list of empowering rules and statements with your particular circumstances in mind. These will help you if and when your inner life is threatened by pain.

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Oct 23

The Action Plan Strategy That Organized People Don’t Share About Life

Your life plan for success

Your life plan for success

Without a life plan, we flounder about without a life raft. Get this free download and get started. After reading this book, you can utilize the Life Plan template to assist your planning.

This book will give you the strategy that is needed to get you started building the life you want.

 

My Life PLAN

[Your Name]

As of Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Outcomes For Life

How do you want to be remembered by the following?

[Write your outcome here.]

My Spouse             [Write your outcome here.]

My Children          [Write your outcome here.]

My Parents            [Write your outcome here.]

My Colleagues      [Write your outcome here.]

My Friends            [Write your outcome here.]

Priorities In Life

What is most important to you?

  1.          1.      [Write your first priority here.]
  2.          2.      [Write your first priority here.]
  3.          3.      [Write your first priority here.]
  4.          4.      [Write your first priority here.]
  5.          5.      [Write your first priority here.]

Action Plans For Life

Account 1: [Write your first account heading.]

Envisioned Future:

[Write your envisioned future statement.]

Purpose Statement:

[Write your purpose statement.]

Supporting Verse:

[Optional: Include a supporting Bible verse.]

Current Reality:

  • [Write your first item.]
  • [Write your first item.]
  • [Write your first item.]
  • [Write your first item.]

Specific Commitments:

Account 2: [Write your second account heading.]

Envisioned Future life:

[Write your envisioned future statement.]

Purpose Statement:

[Write your purpose statement.]

Supporting Verse:

[Optional: Include a supporting Bible verse.]

Current Reality:

Specific Commitments:

[Copy and Paste the action plan for life template as many times as you need.]

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Oct 09

How To Embrace Change In Any Season

Be The Change You Want To See In The World

Be The Change You Want To See In The World

How You See Change

What do you see when you look at your life? Are you a victim of your circumstances? Is the devil out to get you? Well, I beg to differ. I lived in that place at one time but it’s no longer for me. I took hold of my life. I took responsibility for my thoughts and actions and I feel better now.Click the picture below to listen to this Mixcloud Audio below to help you embrace the changes you need to bring you happiness now.

How To Embrace Change In Any Season by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

Values and Change

When I realized that I was in charge of my thought life, it amazed me to see how poorly I was thinking. I thought I was a positive person. But I also believed that the devil was sabotaging me with events to trip me up. Wow, was I wrong. My values were in conflict and the fear it caused was what messed me up and sabotaged me over and over.

Believe In Your Dreams And Change Your Future

Believe In Your Dreams And Change Your Future

Change is Good

When I realized that I left it up to God to fix things, I still lacked the love for myself that needed to be in place so I could embrace His love. When I saw that I was not a “sinner” but that I had lacked the knowledge needed to live abundantly, I embraced this quest to acknowledge that I was lovable and that God’s abundance was my abundance. I could not escape His love and the universes laws. These laws are set up to help us use our creativity to create the life we want.

How Do You Embrace Change Of Seasons?

How Do You Embrace Change Of Seasons?

Design Change

When we love ourselves, we must include the belief that God is for us. He created the world and provided the model of creativity for us. We are encouraged as spiritual beings to create the life we want by designing it in our mind; seeing the perfect relationships, our beautiful home, fulfilling work life or an exciting business venture.

Change As a Global Agent

Once we find out the secret of a successful life, we will want to help others. It has become my “why” in life. I was “lost” but now I’m “found”. I was “blind” but now I “see”.

Do You See Change As Opportunity

Do You See Change As Opportunity

The Challenge Of Change

Do you see your life in a positive way? Do you like the changes occurring? Perhaps it’s time to revisit your relationship with yourself and see if you might make some changes in the way you see yourself. Your life is filled with possibilities and what you can create is endless. Trust yourself, forgiving yourself and trust that the laws of sowing and reaping are real. Sow seeds of greatness into yourself. You deserve every loving change.

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Sep 30

How To Create Success – Motivational Video

Success for entrepreneurs means living with passion

Success for entrepreneurs means living with passion

Are You Success Driven

This video is very powerful. Be ready to be inspired and encouraged. Steve Jobs’ words made a lot of sense to me. He said you must be passionate about the thing you are doing or you won’t stick with it through the difficult times. It takes a lot to succeed but passion must be in place. Watch the video I found through a post on Facebook.

 

Success With Passion

Tony Robbins speaks about living with passion. It’s why only 1% out of 100 entrepreneurs succeed in business, while the other 99 give up. But we all are passionate about something. Brian Tracy shares some questions to ask about what we should pursue in life. He says we need to write down the skills we have and who those skills can help.
I wrote down “teaching”. I love to teach personal development because I have had to overcome many things and success comes more easily to me when I teach things I learned from reading, listening, and taking action on. I must succeed in sharing my Mixcloud podcasts because I enjoy creating them and my audience is showing up.

Success your way

Watch this video and look for more articles that address the needs you have. Realize that we all have weaknesses because we are human beings. We’re all the same. It’s getting in the habit of doing over and over the things we love to do that will bring us success in that area. Find a friend or mentor who can help point out areas for you to be accountable to them to follow up on.

It’s all about your success!

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Sep 23

5 Little Know Facts That Could Affect Your Behavior

5 little known facts that could affect your behavior

5 little known facts that could affect your behavior if you play ball or want to achieve your goals quickly

How Do We Change Our Behavior

Have you ever had a crank call in the middle of the night? I had one the other night and it affected me for a while. I wondered what had attracted this type of person to me? My boyfriend said nothing did and that I should just let it go and don’t let it bother me.

Do things bother you so much that your behavior is shifted?

Allowing others to cause us to become worried or in fear can be troublesome. Techniques like the NLP behavior modifier can help shift our thinking so that we keep heading toward our goals and our major definite purpose.

Having Behavior That Produces The Best Harvest

Many of us have read the scripture about those who are walking on the fence and must choose one side or the other because they are considered “lukewarm”. This type of behavior keeps us from achieving our dreams and goals and ultimately keeps us from our major definite purpose. Listen to my Mixcloud audio as I share more about the technique used my millions to get you to hit a home run every time. Using techniques like the one described here as well as the “theater of the mind” technique can help us reach our goals with lightning speed if we will take time to try them.

THE NEW BEHAVIOR GENERATOR

1. PREPARATION. Find a relaxed and quiet place to be guided through this technique. You don’t have to close your eyes to do this process. Just make yourself comfortable and begin by looking off to your right. In your mind’s eye, imagine seeing someone who looks just like you a short distance away. This “other you” will do all the learning in this exercise, as you observe. Only when you are completely satisfied with this process will the new skills be integrated into you. To ensure this, you might even want to experience yourself as being in a Plexiglas bubble, so that you are truly separated and detached from the activities going on with that “other you” out there.

2. CHOOSE TASK. Now, think of something you want to be able to motivate yourself to do. Pick something very simply. For example, it could be cleaning the kitchen sink, balancing your checkbook, or getting up in the morning. Something that you don’t enjoy doing, but you want very much to have done, because of the benefits you’ll gain as a result.

3. SEE BENEFITS. Watch that “other you,” and see what it will look like when the task is completed, including the positive consequences of having it done, both the direct and immediate benefits, and the future benefits that will result.

4. DOING THE TASK. Now see that “other you” doing the task easily. As that “other you” does the task, that “other you” keeps looking at that image of the task all finished and feels good in response to seeing it all completed. Notice that the internal voice of the “other you” is enticing and encouraging, reminding you of the future rewards and of how much you have already accomplished toward the goal. Finally, we see that “other you” delighted with having it done and enjoying the reward when the task has been completed.

5. REVIEW AND ADJUSTMENT. If what you see isn’t completely delightful, you can let a mist cover your inner vision while the wisdom of your unconscious mind makes the appropriate adjustments or changes. When the mist disappears again, you will see the adjustments that have been made in a way that’s pleasing and good for you. Do you want to be that “other you” who has just used a new motivation strategy? Are you satisfied that that “other you” has mastered this new skill? Have that “other you” do the whole process again with another task to demonstrate it to your satisfaction.

6. INTEGRATION. When you are fully satisfied, let that Plexiglas bubble fall away, and draw into yourself that “other you” who has all these new learnings. Some people actually reach out their arms and imagine drawing that other self into themselves. Sometimes people feel a tingle or a release of energy when they do this.

7. PLANNING. Now take an extra moment to consider when is the next time you will have to perform the task you just motivated yourself to complete.Change your behavior and it will help you achieve your goals more quickly.

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