What Are Parents Doing To Their Children
My daughter shared an interesting article with me on Facebook. As we all do in social media and even offline, if something affects us emotionally, we share it; a good movie, a great beer, a great value, a new gadget or tool! Often times we learn how to parent from modeling others as well. We learn what to do and many times what not to do from our own parents or guardians. As an example of being one of those who likes to share the wisdom that we as adults declare we have, I share with you my view of this article.
Personally, when I read the first several paragraphs, I thought this writer was very bias and had no clue of a leaders perspective. I later realized that he was just building his case for the case studies he found that others declared was happening to children being raised from 2004-2013. In analysis of this article, I recorded my perspective so that you would not be left in the lurch as to how to fix the problem these supposed reports indicated.
Parenting Your Children Correctly
Our parents did the best they could in raising us. Imagine if we knew how to raise emotionally healthy children. Do you believe you have the skills to help your children succeed and find satisfaction in life without begging, borrowing or stealing to get it? Honesty is a vital character quality. It begins at home. Some parents are pretty sly at being dishonest to get the teacher to chance a child’s grade. Other parents who don’t know the proper leadership principles use the governmental system to declare their children unable to take tests with a time frame attached. Writing notes and calling professors indicate a parent who is forcing a teacher to treat their child differently.
Undermining Your Children
There are things you may be doing to create children who feel inadequate
- Make up stories about your children to cover up a mistake
- Look a child in the eye to keep them from saying something in front of others
- Go behind your children’s back to make the child feel inadequate
- Lie on your income tax or when talking on the phone
- Manipulate the system to get more governmental assistance
- See others as “poor so in so”
- Tell your children what to say when they have to call someone to explain a situation
- Talk to your child daily about everything that’s going on in their day
Our children are meant to be leaders. Parents who are overly concerned about every little thing in their children’s life are generally making up for a lack of training in the early years. Unfortunately, many of us didn’t have parents with great leadership skills. We learned as we went and by the time we had some experience or learned some truth about how best to live, our little ones were teens. Too little too late, great people have troubled teens on their hands. Hoping they could get through to their children, they made a last ditch effort to share the wisdom they wished they had while they were young parents.
Leadership for Children
Do you find it hard to get on track with raising kids? I know a lot of well meaning parents whose kids are messed up. It’s sad. They are into drinking, drugs, wreckless driving, unemployment, unmotivated, aimless and more. Many young people head off to the military to get some aim in life. Those that stick with it feel secure in that lifestyle and don’t like to go home to the chaos of civilian life.
Parents must prepare, before they have children, to learn the skills of leadership over their own homes and businesses. We can raise leaders who see life with possibility and who feel great about their future . It takes knowledge and wisdom. Over concern and playing catch up is never good!
10 things you can do today to help your children become leaders are:
- Read to your children
- Homeschool if possible
- When your children want to help, let them
- When your child is curious, see this as initiative
- If your child falls and gets hurt, help him right away
- If you child has difficulty sleeping, investigate the true reason
- Keep your children from watching horror films
- Play inspiring music at home
- Teach your child how to save money
- Pay him money for jobs above and beyond the chores you set up for him/her
Parenting is an amazing opportunity and done correctly, you will develop a team that will pay to back over and over. Over concern is an anxiety emotion and shows a lack of trust on your part. A lack of trust in yourself, in your children, your spouse, your job, the government or whatever you attach the emotion to, you pass this anxiety on to your children when you don’t do things with the intention of a positive aim in life. This chief aim is necessary to get you and your children to a life of success and satisfaction you will be proud of in the end.
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PS.Audio based on “A Nation Of Wimps” article in “Psychology Today” Feb 19, 2013. Article asserts hyper concerned parents creating fragile children who go into depression in their 30s.