HOW WILL I MAKE A LIVING NOW?
CAN I CREATE SUCCESS NOW THAT I FAILED IN MARRIAGE?
WHAT ABOUT WORK AND MY BUSINESS? WILL THIS FAILURE INHIBIT ME FROM SUCCESS IN OTHER AREAS?
I am one of many recovering from wounds of a failed marriage. I remember it as clear as day, ‘it’s over, I want a divorce!’ When those words came that Thanksgiving morning, my confidence was completely shattered. For almost 4 yrs., I’ve gone in and out of depression, desperation, and loneliness. But I am also a seeker of revelation knowledge and personal development. If it weren’t for support from others, their confidence in me, and their uniting with me, I may have stayed in the hole forever. I believe that healing is necessary before real strides in personal development can be made. The biggest challenge a personal developer will face is helping those who are wounded see themselves as worthy of success.
Some days, early on, I’d lie in bed in “fear”.
LONLINESS WAS AN EVERYDAY SYMPTOM
Abandoned, rejected, and other “sick” feelings and beliefs were common in my perception. I had no idea of the mess my thinking was in. “Our perception is based on our belief.” The roots of belief about who we are go deep. E.g. The I am a worm perception has it’s roots in a belief that we are not worthy of honor, respect and success.
“Grace” is one explanation of how as if by a miracle, we suddenly understand that we believed a lie about ourselves. I believe it’s the prayers or “beliefs” of those who are “for us”, that produces that “grace”. Many have had that grandmother who always prayed for her family. Perhaps her good thoughts directed toward her future generations had a positive effect.
Negative circumstances can occur with support, confidence and unity as well. Confidence in illness, disease, poverty, manifest as a result. One example is when disease is passed down to generations. We’ve all heard, ‘my family has heart problems, so I guess I will have them too’. Could that belief manifest heart problems in that person? Absolutely! What you put confidence in will manifest, whether positive or negative.
SOMEONE MUST BELIEVE IN YOUR SUCCESS EVEN IF IT’S JUST YOU!
This is where personal development begins. Without a positive healed mindset, it’s difficult to sustain success. It’s not impossible, but less likely. With an impoverished mindset, the mental game has you sinking in sand. Sadly, you don’t know it. Getting to truth requires changed beliefs about who you are but will place you on a firm foundation.
What we perceive is based on what we believe about who we are. Personal development begins when we get help navigating to the truth and belief that we are honorable, respectable and worthy to have success in our life. Wealthy people have expectations and believe they deserve the best. They usually get it. The only mindset difference between poverty and wealth is belief.
THE ROAD TO RECOVERY BEGINS WITH PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
I am one who has learned to overcome a poor mindset. I’ve learned to abandon the lies and gain the knowledge of the truth. If it weren’t for support from others, their confidence in me, and their uniting with me, I may have stayed in the hole forever. Helping an impoverished thinker see the possibilities is the greatest challenge a personal development coach may face. It may well be the most satisfying he’ll experience. When a person he coaches finally sees themselves as worthy of success, the sky’s the limit.