Tag Archive: self help

Jul 08

How to love yourself so you can be happy

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Do you love yourself?

Do you love yourself?

Do you love yourself?

Do others feel your love when you speak to them?

To love others we must have a reserve of understanding in ourselves. This comes when we build ourselves up in love.. We need to also practice loving ourselves. I recommend a couple books by John Eldredge. Captivating, and Wild at Heart. Each book is addressed to female and male. Captivating was the first book I read where I was prepared to receive the message I needed to begin loving myself.

How do I love myself first?

How do I love myself first?

How can we learn to love others when we don’t know how to love ourselves?

As a child, we may learn from our parents how to love ourselves. Which of you didn’t have this support? I understand and that’s why I’m sharing this podcast. Whether we imagined we weren’t loved or we truly didn’t get what we needed, matters not. What matters is that today, we begin to build our love life on a firm foundation. Taking small steps, reading supportive books, and finding loving people who stand by us through the process, we can change our lives for the better.

The journey to love yourself begins today!

The journey to love yourself begins today!

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To love others we must know how to treat ourselves.

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Jul 08

How to love when its hard to understand

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How do you love someone when its hard to understand what they do?

Have your words ever been taken the wrong way? Do you speak before you think?

We are human and with that, many times we speak before we think. Our feelings rule us and we say things that sting the other person.

Do your feelings cause you to blurt out profanity’s because you don’t understand?

Dealing with our feelings and the feelings of others doesn’t have to be hard. We can think before we speak. We can manage our emotions. We can forgive swiftly.

Marvin J Ashton’s words in his book Begin With Yes, state this: ” If we could look into each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance and care.”

How do you love when you don't understand them?

How do you love when you don’t understand them?

My podcast shares a simple way that is repeatable and successful so that we can do this and create more happiness in our life.

Mr. Ashton says “I think we would treat each other…” He states this as a “thought”, not a feeling. He is using logic while writing this statement. If he would have said “I feel”, it would have indicated that he “felt” this. He eliminated “feeling” words so that we would see this as factual and not opinion.

Do you speak before you think when you don’t understand?

We can do that same thing when we share things with our team, our family, and our co workers. He is managing his emotions by not stating his opinion emotionally. Use your thinking words when you have to speak with authority. Use your emotions when you are in a place of humility, when you want to forgive someone.

This podcast shares a simple strategy for overcoming life’s difficulties. It requires your imagination and vision, with a desire to overcome, forgive and be happy.

We can understand others better today as we implement the simple technique revealed in this podcast.

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To understand how one feels is miraculous. To treat them with care takes self confidence and peace.

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Feb 19

How To Overcome Regrets In Life

Do you regret things in your life?

How many times have you woken up thinking “I should have done this! I should have done that?” Did it ever help you?

How to overcome regrets in life by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

[pullquote align=” right” textalign=” right” width=”30%”]Life is too short to wake up with regrets.
Love the people who treat you right and forget the ones who don’t.
Believe that everything happens for a reason.
If you get a chance, take it.
If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody said that life would be easy.
They just promised that it would be worth it.[/pullquote]

What does our past teach us about life?

We sometimes have beliefs about people.  We can learn from our parent’s beliefs alternate ways we desire to live.  Many of us formed beliefs as children that inhibit us from a prosperous future. Some of us desire to learn from our past and try not to repeat it.

Taking responsibility for our own life, should we take time to judge the motives of others? After all, we haven’t walked in their shoes? If we have ever ended a relationship due to beliefs you had about that person, we may regret that error in judgment after a while.

Most of the time, our regrets are caused by our beliefs. If we know someone who has failed or we have failed ourselves, regretting is another way of punishing ourselves. When we come to that place where we say “why did I do that?”, it’s like yelling at the child for spilling the milk. Instead, we ought to set up a belief that feeling badly for spilling the milk is a poor error in judgment. We are punishing ourselves and this error shows up in regret.

We can be our own best friend though it may be difficult to figure out what that looks and feels like. Why? Because  we may have grown up with a belief that we are sinners, or that we are not perfect. Perhaps we’ve been told we’ll never amount to anything. Additionally, we may have beliefs formed earlier in life resembling those above. Later as adults, we received accolades that we are so wonderful. But we may not be able to receive those compliments because we don’t believe that about ourselves. So sad.

Developing better beliefs that match our present abilities and enhance dreams for our future will help us achieve them much more quickly.  This can help you achieve happiness today.

Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?

War, tragedy, marital breakup, fatal sickness, and things like these seem to be signs of great failure. But there is another better way to see these events and circumstances. But do you know how to?

Keep our thoughts at home where they belong. We have enough to do in a day to judge our own thoughts, actions, ideas and beliefs. By judging others, we are basically judging ourselves.

Being mature is the goal in life. As we attain to maturity, we learn from our experiences. We gain knowledge through coaches and teachers as well as books on the subject of our desires.

Changes in life

Have you ever felt out of control when changes occurred? Most of us have felt this when we have no rules set up for what must happen in order for us to feel happy. Without rules for happiness, changes may appear bad. However, changes are a turn in the road. That change could be what takes you to a better place, a better relationship, a better job or home. For some reason, we insist that changes are “done to us”. This victim mentality indicates that we have not set up the necessary rules for happiness.

We can set up rules that make it very easy for us to succeed and difficult for us to fail. But these must take that place of rules set up earlier by well meaning parents or teachers. Parents who encourage their children to succeed may set up a belief that a “B” is good but an “A” is better. A child may need to get an “A” in order to feel successful. Again, this sad state adults find themselves in make it difficult for them to feel successful because the rules they made for what success looks like.

 

A good rule might be “if I have learned something from it, then I have success”. Therefore it makes it easy to achieve. Additionally, we can treat our own children with the same belief and create a rule in our family to foster a feeling of success if something is learned by an experience. A child will begin to look for things they learned so that they feel successful. So simple, this rule will not lead to regret.

[pullquote align=”left|center|right” textalign=”left|center|right” width=”30%”]Are you living a balanced life? Sacrifice is good but balance is better because self love always must preceed loving others in order to really help others.[/pullquote] If you are in good health, body, mind and spirit, you are going to be the most helpful, beneficial influence for others.

What were you born to do?

We were born to grow like a plant, to expand our leaves and bear fruit and provide shade for others. If life is easy, we are not growing. This could mean, we begin to die slowly. Those who retire may no longer want the stress or challenge that comes with life, but will soon come to death without the desire to expand. Life is no meant to be “hard”. Our life should be a continual process of growing. This belief will help us to live a balance life while loving ourself and others.

How to overcome regrets in life by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

So what makes life worth it?

Our life’s goal is to live a balanced life, loving ourselves and others. We should look at our experiences as things to learn from. To achieve harmony by taking chances in life,  we grow and develop. Our words and actions become our fruit. Our experiences are like the stalk or trunk. Our life should make a great impact on the world around us.

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Feb 11

The #1 Success Secret For The Sinner – Seeing Ourself

The #1 Success Secret For The Sinner by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

How do we see ourself if we were told we are a sinner?

If we are raised with the sinner philosophy, our redeemed identity lies in creating a healthy foundation for success. It begins with a mindset that many in this world lack to varying degrees. It’s such a little secret that it’s easy to miss. Our parents and teachers may not know this success secret either.

Jesus reflecting on sin to god

Jesus reflecting on sin to god

Should we have faith in our parents?

As children, our initial thought is to trust others without question.

1. Parents who model good behavior help us believe they love and support us unconditionally.
2. Teachers who model good skill may be trusted and believed if what we are learning seems to advance us towards success.
3. Pastors and Priests may be trusted as we feel we’re getting the training that makes us feel good about God and ourself.

In each case, these mentors can help us or hurt our understanding of how to succeed in life. Because of their placement as authority figures we are vulnerable and therefore susceptible to possible corruption.

Belief in ourself and sinning

My lack of knowledge as a youth in the church traumatized me for years. A slight error in judgment early on led me on a life path of failure of heart believing I was a sinner condemned, not loved. I didn’t trust myself which led to my lack of trust of others. I didn’t understand why I lacked confidence and didn’t trust others until many many years later. Because of my desire for truth, I came to learn that Jesus, mature in the knowledge of the truth, modeled someone we could believe and learn from. Trusting Jesus’ teachings, we can achieve a place of maturity and holiness. Knowing God, Jesus taught us how to love God and love ourself in a more holy way.

The Church and our belief

We cannot trust ourselves when making decisions and choices without a proper understanding of self love. We must learn how to set goals with belief in ourself. Leaning on Jesus’ teachings, we learn how to love ourselves more and accept our failures, forgive ourself and keep going forward towards the whole life he knows will bring us success.

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God loves all of us; our strengths and weaknesses.

We have to love and have belief in ourself and take responsibility for our life.

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Trusting ourself

We must come to that place of decision. We must seek out and find the truth about love, about God’s love for us, about love and forgivness of others. With this understanding, we learn how to believe in God and love, nurture, encourage and build ourselves up in love to success.

Then as we create goals we can accomplish, we must believe that we deserve them. With this belief, we will absolutely trust our decisions and reach the success we desire. Speaking and talking ourself up, we support ourself and properly nurture ourself as we would others we love.

Speaking ourself up

Daily, speaking words of instruction and encouragement, we build for ourself a life that works. Using the models of others who teach us strategies for success, we set goals and learn how to dream about our future, trusting that our dreams will come true. We can only do this with a belief in God and in ourselves.

  • We trust in God that the laws set in place will bring our dreams into reality.
  • We trust in ourself that we can have what we want because we are worth it, deserve it and because this is what life is for.
  • This glorifies God and pleases Him.
 What does Jesus pray  with sinner

What does Jesus say to this sinner?

Satisfaction in ourself

Do you think we are born so we can condemn ourself? Have you noticed those of us who judge others and have made a habit of complaining about life. These attitudes and habits are a reflection of how we think about and treat ourself.

[pullquote align=”left|center|right” textalign=”left|center|right” width=”30%”]What we see is who we are.[/pullquote]

The Secret

We will live without whole life or we can develop ourselves and succeed in life. The secret we miss when we go after success is the knowledge of how and why to love ourself. Let’s not let the ignorant teachings of some childhood authorities keep us in the dark by telling us we’re sinners hopeless without a savior. Jesus modeled the life we all are born for. Salvation makes sense when it’s about Jesus’ love and not our sin.

If we are failing in life and things are getting darker, this secret will save us. But how we see ourself is important. We are marvelous individuals with the power to create the life we were born to create. Let this slight error in judgment, believing that we are sinners, be the catalyst to get us to the next step, which is to learn how to love ourself and build ourself up.

Keep negative people at bay

When I was told that I put Jesus on the cross, I didn’t understand what I’d done. What I heard was not what was the truth. It took many many years before I corrected my belief and in my heart understood Jesus’ model of love. He chose the cross. He went of His own fruition. I didn’t put him there. What a terrible idea to plant in children’s heads. We have a chance to model godly behavior when we know how to love and nurture ourself. Jesus is one model of great love. There are hundreds of models.

[pullquote align=”left|center|right” textalign=”left|center|right” width=”30%”]Love yourself today and build yourself up in love.[/pullquote]

Let’s not allow our misunderstandings taught by ignorant people keep us from the truth that we are unconditionally loved to live our true potential. We each have gifts we were born to give. We can co create in true prosperity and become global agents of change for our planet. Or we can live a more simple life modeling godly behavior in whatever way we desire.

The #1 Success Secret For The Sinner by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

Go right to the source for knowledge and mentorship. Build a foundation for success that withstands the world, inside or outside the authority places of your youth. As we each love ourself, success is present and dreams will absolutely become reality.

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Sep 30

What Your Priest Won’t Tell You About Your Choices

Your Priest Won't Tell You About Your Choices

Your Priest Won’t Tell You About Your Choices

Choices That Help

Happiness is about our CHOICES. How do we make choices that support us? We need to learn from someone who is good at making right choices. Find someone. It could be Jesus. But it could be a friend who you trust, a parent you love, a grandparent or co worker who mentors you.

Choices That Hurt

Listen as I explain where I got so off track as a child that led me to make wrong choices and create a future that hurt me rather than gave me the pleasure I deserved. It was my own fault. I take responsibility for it now and you can too! Learn more when you listen to the Mixcloud audio above. It will empower you to make better choices starting today!

Being Responsible For Our Choices

Let me explain what truth wisdom I see about the verse and interpretation I placed below this article and podcast. It should help those who are in fear that the devil is out to get them. Get some simple step by step help you can do today to empower your future instead of fearing it.

This is the statement I address. Read and listen to see why I disagree with some key words used.

Psalms 119:133 Direct my steps by Your word, and let no iniquity have dominion over me.

Marsha’s interpretation:
Beloved, stay on track.  Don’t let anything derail you from your focus on things that really matter–things of eternal value and importance.  The enemy will do all he can to cause confusion, condemnation, and distraction.  It is up to you to resist the attacks of the enemy, keep your thoughts under the rule of My Spirit and to control your emotional impulses and responses.  Then, trust Me to give you wisdom and direction in all things, says the Lord.  I am for you!

Starting today, you can empower yourself with these simple steps outlined in the podcast here; and begin by making choices that support you; not add fear to your life.

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