Tag Archive: values

Sep 27

The Truth About Your Emotions – Anger Management Tip

Are Your Emotions Driven By Your Values?

Are Your Emotions Driven By Your Values?

The Value Of Your Emotions

What gets you angry?  So many things could do it. It’s easy to understand the motive of an angry person. They just yell at you or walk away in silence and you know by their body language they’re angry. But what triggered that anger? Was it something you said? Why did what you say anger them?   In this Mixcloud podcast I share the top tips for what truth about emotional people and  what they value most.

Each of us has a set of rules for feeling good. Violate those rules and they begin to experience anger.  Here’s what you need to know so you can remain calm when others trigger anger in you.

1. All we value is set up in hierarchical order.

2. For some people “peace” is higher on the list that “connection”.

3. So if your conversation disrupts someone’s peaceful state, they will disconnect with you. Your connection or conversation has disrupted their emotions about peace.

 

Telling The Truth About Your Emotions

Emotions are the manifestation of our values.

To be sure your emotions are consistent with a happy life there are some steps you can take.

 

1. List your values and place them in order of most important to least important. (do 10 values)

2. See if any 2 are not consistent with each other. e.g. freedom and security.

3. Decide what you want more and switch the list around to make it easier to be happy with them.

4. Create rules about your values. e.g. Love: I love others unconditionally. OR Love: I love those who love me first.

5. Create rules that support your value priorities. e.g. Freedom: To be free means to never be tied down in a relationship. Freedom:To be free means to be in a relationship where each of us feels free to be ourselves without judgement.

 

Emotions Are Triggered By Your Values

Emotions Are Triggered By Your Values

The Truth About Values

Most of what we value is an accumulation of emotions we felt about circumstances from our past. If we desire happiness in life, we can change what we value and make rules to support a happy life that doesn’t conflict with other things we value. First thing to do is to make that list. Check it twice and see if you are in conflict. Conflicts may be contributing to a lack of success in your emotions and happiness. To be truly happy and satisfied, we create rules that help us to avoid pain and experience the most pleasure. Make your list so that it’s easy to live by.

 

Emotions and Judgement

The responsibility for our happiness lies within us. Remove any conflicts of values and you’re on your way to the happy life you desire and deserve. The scripture verses, “Judge not lest you be judged” and “Remove the speck from your eye before you try to remove the log out of someone else’s eye”, show what our character should be when it comes to our judgement of others. When we speak out emotionally against the way another person lives, we are showing our dissatisfaction about the things that person values. But we don’t know the “whole” of the person. Where we are weak, that other person may be strong. We ought better check ourselves and what we value. Remember that the strength of our relationships are based on the things we value most. And we all value different things most. By setting up “win win” rules that accept what others value most, we are showing good character and maintaining good emotions to which we will not be judged by others. Listen here to this supplemental podcast to learn more.

Set Up The Values You Want Most and Your Positive Emotions Will Follow.

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Mar 04

How Do I Teach My Children The Value Of Dreaming?

Teaching Your Children The Value Of Dreaming by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

 Today’s recording is a Christmas story by Louisa May Alcott, called “The Christmas Dream and How It Came True”.

What does dreaming do?

Our children are dreaming about  growing up some day. When they leave our home, they will have learned what they can from us. They will take with them the training from teachers, pastors, Sunday school lessons, coaches, club leaders and friends.

As parents, we generally first take care of our children’s physical needs. Then we may bring them to church to guide them in faith. What many parents disregard is the child’s mental health. By this I mean their thought life. Most parents never read personal development book or leadership books until college. Then it was most often for the purpose of satisfying general education classes.

Happiness Inside Can Bring Money Outside

Happiness Inside Can Bring Money Outside

Did you learn about dreaming when you were in school?

If parents even went to college they went for a good grade to keep up their GPA. This lack of understanding of the value of developing their thought life purposefully is perhaps only taught to psych students and perhaps philosophy students. I personally didn’t take “business” classes in college and I would hope that they are now teaching the psychology of sales and reading people.

So this is why as parents, many miss this part of developing their children’s minds.
Most parents warn their children to “stop dreaming” and keep their feet on earth! Children with ADHD are cautioned to take medicine for such “disorders” when their little entrepreneurs are natural dreamers and would do well if teachers helped them discipline their minds without keeping them from the natural process of dreaming about things.

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Your Children Leaders First Steps To Success

What value is there in dreaming?

The value of dreaming is what adults have to re connect with when deciding to take responsibility for their futures. Our children are naturally self centered. So what do we do to help them? We encourage them to dream!

Yes, dreaming of what they would like to do, where they would like to go, how they want to be seen as adults, are the necessities of the leader entrepreneur.

If you want your children to find their own way in life, encourage them to dream. Guide them toward what kind of dreams they should consider pondering.

1. The kind of work they want to do
2. The place they want to live
3. The car they want to drive
4. The people they want to meet
5. The way they want their bodies to look
6. The friends they want to have
7. The kind of person they want to marry

This is just the beginning of guiding our children. Though we are famous for judging the things our children while comparing them to others, we need to stop that!

We live in a world of unlimited possibilities. Our children are brought up in society to believe they must compete for that Job, position, house, girl, boy, etc… but competition is NOT what we need to teach our kids.

Do you feel like you are missing out?

Do you feel like you are missing out?

Today’s recording is a Christmas story by Louisa May Alcott, called “The Christmas Dream and How It Came True”.

While listening to this story, notice the mother who helped fulfill the dream her child had. This is an excellent example of 3 things.
1. Children have dreams
2. Parents need to share the kinds of dreams that can become a reality for their children.
3. Children entrepreneurs are individuals. They may be in school and being taught to “conform” to the norm. While this is necessary to keep order in a school setting, parents would help their children by encouraging their children to write down their dreams in a journal and keep writing daily.

Your children’s future is in your hands for about 15 years at most. By that time, they are making most of their decisions on their own. Let’s help them make wise decisions that will grant them a happy, healthy, prosperous future!

 

Hear the whole series on leadership for children

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