#1 quality true leaders have

This weeks podcast expounds on this statement and reveals the quality great leaders have.

A wise man once said “The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.”

My boyfriend wanted to paint his bedroom over. At first, I told him it was a mess and we needed to clean it up and make is just a bedroom and not an office, a gun room and a tv room. But that startled him, especially when I told him the way I’d approach it. He had his own way of cleaning and organizing and it made me wonder if I was going to be able to help him at all.

After some time, and a bit of communication, he shared his approach, which is much like the way he does many other things. He wanted to do it once and do it right. He wanted me to be there to support him. Later on, after reading the above quote, I discovered what my task as a leader over my own life and emotions.

Leaders envision something great

The vision of leaders

While cleaning up some paperwork of my own, I came across a program about goal setting using the SMART system. One point that jumped out what to state your “outcomes” clearly and specifically. The goal at hand is paint the bedroom and maintain harmony. I wrote down the “first step” after writing a clear set of outcomes I wanted from the project.

The love of leaders

Instead of setting a goal, what is better to do is create well formed outcomes. There is a process to this.

State the outcome in positive statements
Ensure the outcome is within your control, not others
Be very specific
Use sensory based procedure
Consider the context
Ensure access to resources
Outcomes must preserve existing benefits
Outcomes must be ecologically sound
Define the first step

So I began to list the outcomes I saw as my goal using positive statements, considering outcomes that I could control either in my mind or in the circumstances. Many of the statements used words like feel free, enjoy waking up happy, feel an easiness, seeing things I love… and others. All these words are sensory statements suggested. The context involved someone else besides me and I needed to understand what he wanted.

I knew I had the resources I needed because my passion is decorating and my skill is a creative designer. I needed to be sure that upon taking on the project, the outcome would be more beneficial for the both of us and create even a better relationship, which would preserve the existing freedom we are hoping to enlarge.

Lastly, I had to consider the time involved and whether is was worth going through the process. Would it make the bedroom more conducive to happiness and pleasure? As I wrote my list I included outcomes that I consider ecologically sound.

Leadership begins at home

Leaders and love strategies

Over the years, I have learned more about leading children. Every parent is a leader. While I embraced my role, I learned that leaders make mistakes as they grow. We must forgive ourselves for our past mistakes and forgive others as is needed at the present time. Leaders do not arrive. I am still on the journey and will continue to develop leadership qualities as a whole person for the rest of my days. My hope is that what I am learning will benefit you along your journey.

Anthony Williams shared a list of goals we must consider when growing our “love” for others. We must understand the person, have compassion for them, feel joy in the relationship, desire freedom for love to develop.

I hope that I have experienced enough to understand you. I do have compassion for you as a person seeking the qualities of a great leader. I know the struggles and the satisfaction I receive from sharing my posts. I feel joy in connecting with you; a joy on the inside that keeps me going. I desire to be free is sharing and developing my audience and I hope that you feel the freedom to comment and connect with me for more podcasts like this.

In this podcast, I get clear on how a leader loves others and what is the opposite of leadership. Click Here to subscribe. To subscribe using iTunes, click the “podcast” tab above.

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