#1 quality true leaders have

This weeks podcast expounds on this statement and reveals the quality great leaders have.

A wise man once said “The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.”

My boyfriend wanted to paint his bedroom over. At first, I told him it was a mess and we needed to clean it up and make is just a bedroom and not an office, a gun room and a tv room. But that startled him, especially when I told him the way I’d approach it. He had his own way of cleaning and organizing and it made me wonder if I was going to be able to help him at all.

After some time, and a bit of communication, he shared his approach, which is much like the way he does many other things. He wanted to do it once and do it right. He wanted me to be there to support him. Later on, after reading the above quote, I discovered what my task as a leader over my own life and emotions.

Leaders envision something great

The vision of leaders

While cleaning up some paperwork of my own, I came across a program about goal setting using the SMART system. One point that jumped out what to state your “outcomes” clearly and specifically. The goal at hand is paint the bedroom and maintain harmony. I wrote down the “first step” after writing a clear set of outcomes I wanted from the project.

The love of leaders

Instead of setting a goal, what is better to do is create well formed outcomes. There is a process to this.

State the outcome in positive statements
Ensure the outcome is within your control, not others
Be very specific
Use sensory based procedure
Consider the context
Ensure access to resources
Outcomes must preserve existing benefits
Outcomes must be ecologically sound
Define the first step

So I began to list the outcomes I saw as my goal using positive statements, considering outcomes that I could control either in my mind or in the circumstances. Many of the statements used words like feel free, enjoy waking up happy, feel an easiness, seeing things I love… and others. All these words are sensory statements suggested. The context involved someone else besides me and I needed to understand what he wanted.

I knew I had the resources I needed because my passion is decorating and my skill is a creative designer. I needed to be sure that upon taking on the project, the outcome would be more beneficial for the both of us and create even a better relationship, which would preserve the existing freedom we are hoping to enlarge.

Lastly, I had to consider the time involved and whether is was worth going through the process. Would it make the bedroom more conducive to happiness and pleasure? As I wrote my list I included outcomes that I consider ecologically sound.

Leadership begins at home

Leaders and love strategies

Over the years, I have learned more about leading children. Every parent is a leader. While I embraced my role, I learned that leaders make mistakes as they grow. We must forgive ourselves for our past mistakes and forgive others as is needed at the present time. Leaders do not arrive. I am still on the journey and will continue to develop leadership qualities as a whole person for the rest of my days. My hope is that what I am learning will benefit you along your journey.

Anthony Williams shared a list of goals we must consider when growing our “love” for others. We must understand the person, have compassion for them, feel joy in the relationship, desire freedom for love to develop.

I hope that I have experienced enough to understand you. I do have compassion for you as a person seeking the qualities of a great leader. I know the struggles and the satisfaction I receive from sharing my posts. I feel joy in connecting with you; a joy on the inside that keeps me going. I desire to be free is sharing and developing my audience and I hope that you feel the freedom to comment and connect with me for more podcasts like this.

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Leadership and Raising Self Confident Children by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

Self confidence is a leadership quality

Are you a leader/follower Or are you a leader/leader?

A child’s self confidence begins at home with parents as leaders. Every child will become what his parents teach him or her. If a parent is afraid of mice, it’s likely the child will be also. A confident parent will raise confident children, providing that parent is confident in honest endeavors.

Skepticism is the deadly enemy of progress and self-development. Parents who feel that the “rich” are out to take all their money, or the poor are a waste of humanity will subconsciously teach their children the same.

Successful entrepreneurs have self confidence

What do we know about self confidence?

Truly, this is an age of illumination and unfoldment, but we have as yet barely scratched the surface of knowledge. However, when we shall have unlocked the gate that leads to the secret power which is stored up within us it will bring us knowledge that will make all past discoveries pale into oblivion by comparison.

This is the knowledge that becomes power to our successful life and to the lives of those we lead, be it our children, our teammates, our employees, our board, or whatever human being comes across our path.

Thought is the most highly organized form of energy known to man, and with the experiences of time, it is sure to bring us into greater understanding of that mysterious force called thought, which reposes within us. As parents, we have a responsibility to model a healthy thought life to our children.

The mind of a child which has not come into the age of general understanding, during an average period covering,say, the first two years of its life, is plastic, open, clean and free.

Any idea planted in such a mind by one in whom the child has confidence takes root and grows, so to speak, in such a manner that it never can be eradicated or wiped out, no matter how opposed to logic or reason that idea
may be.

Children Leaders Are Both Male and Female

Children leaders exhibit self confidence in business

Are your children learning self confidence from others?

Many religionists claim that they can so deeply implant the tenets of their religion in the mind of a
child that there never can be room in that mind for any other religion, either in whole or in part. The claims
are not greatly overdrawn. If our churches can do this, (and perhaps our schools as well), we as parents must oversee faith and scholarly teachings or suffer the consequences of another force outside of us leading our children in a way we would or would not want them to go.

Sad to say but some parents with lack of knowledge, fear things. This ignorance is passed to their children as truth even though what they fear may not be true. One example can be a fear of ill health. I have heard many lack confidence in their own health because they have heard their own parents say “because I got diabetes, you’ll get it too.”

I lack self confidence when I listen to negative people

Does fear stop self confidence?

This fear (false evidence appearing real) is a lie but many take it as truth. Self confidence expresses truly taking responsibility for our health by researching for ourselves the best lifestyle for good health. This assertion is a great asset for both the parents health and the children’s future healthy life as well. While my children sometimes bauched at some of the healthy foods I made while they were young, are now reaching for the same healthy foods on the grocer shelf. For some ignorant parents, their now ill nourished children are reaching for Twinkies instead of fruit snacks.

Leadership over children and adults begins with taking responsibility over our own life and no longer listening to those who wish us ill, because they are ill. Thankfully, there is much help on the internet and in books like “The Science Of Getting Rich” available today to empower us toward lives of success as we strive toward our definite chief aim.

Our children are our first responsibility. Teaching them self confidence will come easier when they see us living an honorable self confident life. Why are you confident? Because you are living honestly, without fear and with knowledge of the things that make life good.

Healthy habits and self confidence

Raise your children well and you have set into place habits for also raising up loyal employees, team members, and any group you may desire to lead.

Self confidence begins with you. Its now or never. Be the leader/leader you are meant to be. And when you look back over your life, you will not see regrets too much to bare. You will see obstacles overcome, risks confidently taken, habits created by discipline, and love for yourself that made it all worth it.

If you like this post on self confidence, you may want to get the whole series.