Are you a tragic optimist? According to Viktor E. Frankl, tragic optimists use their past values to turn their tragedy into opportunity optimistically to keep themselves alive. Mr. Frankl survived Auschwitz concentration camp with others who used “envisioning” as a means of keeping hope alive.
Do You Choose To See Tragedy Optimistically Or Not?
Do you see your future optimistically?
Many of us see our present circumstances so poorly that we feel life is meaningless. However, these are the same people who feel others lives are more valuable than their own. They’d be willing to die for others but not willing to keep themselves alive. Valuing yourself optimistically and seeing what purpose you have to live for is the most precious gift you can give this world.
Do you dream optimistically?
When we experience anything tragic, be it a marriage failure, the death of a loved one, the untimely death of a friend, or the loss of money in business, we will lean on the values of the past to determine our next step. At the time, we may not consciously know what steps to take next optimistically. It’s in these times that our core values will show.
As You Prayer, Do You See Tragedy Optimistically?
We are valuable to ourselves and our world.
Seeking our purpose in life when tragedy strikes, the potential to create opportunities that help others and our future depends on our biological value set. Our biological depth shows that we are survivors. Listen and learn more on today’s Mixcloud podcast “How to thrive under tragedy optimistically”.
I remember when I was little wanting to ride the merry-go-round by the department store. I laid down on the ground when my mom said “no”. In retrospect, she was probably busy and had little time for me to ride it. But at the time, she told me I was being stubborn.
Nationalities linked to stubborness
Many times different nationalities are linked with being stubborn. The Germans were known for their stubborn qualities. The Irish red head was known to be stubborn. But more likely, it is the child himself who exhibits strong desire for something.
It’s not a bad thing to be stubborn. In this podcast, you will hear why.
Have you ever blurted out “Why are you so stubborn”? We have all felt the difficulty at one time or another with a loved one when we’re trying to get them to change their thinking. Problem is, they don’t see any problem with their thinking, right?
Stubbornness in communicating
Communication helps but both parties must be willing to participate.
So what’s the secret to getting that person to become open to change? Read more at www.carynelizabeth.com about taking responsibility for yourself. Listen here to Caryn’s secrets to getting that person to move toward change.!
Prayer is meant for the purpose of helping us feel that there is someone outside of our immediate circumstances that will help us with things we have no control over. Many people are taught to pray when they are small. The prayers are for the purpose of gaining pleasure when obstacles are in our way.
We pray to feel better, to get good grades on tests, to get a new bike, etc… As children we may have a feeling of a lack of control which conditions us to be fearful but prayer is suppose to make us feel better because God knows what to do to help us. We may tend to press God for things when we feel impatient to wait for them. This idea of praying in this way has taught so many people wrongly. Fear is one of the worst feelings we can have when we pray.
Unfortunately, we’re not taught the correct way to pray so that the fear is lessened and the things we want granted.
Taking responsibility when we pray
What Does God Hear You Pray?
1. Gratitude
2. Fear
3. Faith
4. Words with intention
5. Begging
6. Demanding
7. Hopelessness
7 Things God Needs To Hear You Say When You Pray
What prayers get answered?
All prayers get answered. Whatever emotion is tied to the prayer when we pray will grant us more of the same emotion. This is the sowing and reaping principle we’re taught about in the bible and other spiritual books. Intention is the key.
What is your intention when you pray?
1. To communicate with someone who can help
2. To get things off your chest
3. To make yourself feel better
4. To state the condition of your circumstances
5. To clarify where you are at in your belief at the time
6. To use God to do what you cannot do on your own
7. To share your feelings with someone who understands you
3 Things Missing When You Pray
The 3 things missing when we want the best answers as we pray?
1. Faith in the things that bring us pleasure. Depending on the prayer, we will get more of what we believe about what we are asking.
2. Knowledge of what we need. Without having seen the future, we may not know the best things to pray for.
3. Vision of our definite purpose. Until we set a vision of a definite chief aim in life, we are drifting.
Ultimate things to pray for
What do you pray for? When we’re little we pray for things we don’t have the money to buy ourselves. We pray our siblings will be nice to us. We pray for good grades and for our parents to get along. When we’re small, we have little to no control over our circumstances. But we may not have been taught what we do have control over! Unfortunately, if you had not been taught that you are responsible for your thought life, and your belief life, then you may still be living believing that God is the only one who controls your future. This is a great lie and it’s time for you to wake up and realize that you are in control of your life now!
The lie about how to pray
The lie about prayer is that it’s meant to give you hope that God will be merciful to you and grant you what you don’t have now. The truth is, you can have, be or do anything you desire. The keys needed are “vision, knowledge and faith“. Without the knowledge that you have control over your present life, you may be living as a child, with the belief that you have no control and that you are helpless without God to show you mercy.
Even As Children, You Have Control When You Pray
You have control when you pray
Discipline of our thought life should have begun as children whose parents trained us to believe that anything is possible. But today is your day if you didn’t have such parents. Taking responsibility for your life is what God intends for you to do. He set up the laws of the universe to grant you your desires. Wishes are for those who lack a belief that they have control over their life. Desires are for those who know they have control, that God is for them and the laws of God are set up for expansion of knowledge and growth for every individual on earth.
How now should we pray?
1. Control is the key to answered prayer
2. Faith in the good end
3. Belief that God has given you the keys to success
4. Knowledge of what you want in life
5. Vision seen when meditating on your definite chief aim in life
Whether we’re praying for a sick relative or a business expansion, to pray means to believe the best, to be grateful for the outcome, to know that it’s answered as we pray, and to allow time to reveal the best outcome to you.
Sowing seed is another word for prayer. Allow the water and sun given to every seed by infinite intelligence to do it’s work and in due time, your prayer will be answered. You will have taken control of your present life and your future prayers will be more and more confident. These confident prayers will be answered even more swiftly because your knowledge mixed with skill and experience will grant them to you. You are in control when you pray.
Have you ever been around one of those employees who seems to suck the life right out of their environment? Instead of looking for ways to bring value to the company, they show up with the attitude of “What can you do for me?”
That’s the problem with 98% of employees! They are looking for what they can get out of their company or their job — a paycheck, a promotion, benefits, a big year-end bonus, or even personal satisfaction. Bottom line, they’re taking advantage of the company.
I’m sure you’ve heard that it’s better to give than to receive. That’s not just a nice little saying, and it’s not just Christmas. It applies to you here and now my friend.
I know you’re thinking, “But Caryn, what does giving have to do with my job?” My friend, there are opportunities to share your gifts and talents, whether you are a receptionist or a CEO. But if you are only looking for what you can reap, you will miss opportunities to sow. So think about it today — do you contribute to your environment, or do you suck the air out of it? If you want to grow, you must give more than you take.
Leaders Know The Shocking Truth About Advocacy
“Employee Of The Year” Because You’re An Advocacy Expert
As an employee or business owner, you’re constantly looking for ways to get ahead. But guess what — so is everyone else!
How do you contribute to your work environment? It’s so simple, most people would never think to do it…
Study Advocacy! An advocate is someone who defends, supports, and promotes the interests of others.
Advocates are rare, and advocacy has an extremely high value in the marketplace. And why? Because they continuously feed positive energy into their environment. They encourage and edify. They invest their hearts and souls into the company. They consistently look for opportunities to enrich the people around them.
The Marketplace And Advocacy
We desperately need more advocates in the world today. We need people who will push each other toward their goals and pull the best out of each other.
A student of advocacy constantly reminds people of the heart of the company to keep them focused. They protect the integrity of the company and the reputation of the leaders.
Be an advocate and watch what happens! As a positive influence at your place of employment or your network marketing company, you will receive much more by giving than you know!
Are you happy with your prospecting training in your Network Marketing Company?
Learning the best prospecting skills is the most difficult part for many when we join a network marketing business. The failure to follow up, the ability to start a habit of working from home, and the phone skills and book keeping records needed bring many to failure.
How Is Your Sponsor Modeling The Prospecting Process?
Does your sponsor help your prospecting skills?
Your sponsor has the opportunity to assist your prospecting skills and direct you to the information needed in your network marketing company. But the company must have a system in place in order for anyone to succeed. The fail safe systems require us to get to the trainings and learn them. But our sponsor may not exhibit enough skill to get you the information you need to succeed in your opportunity. Sad to say but for many it’s the blind leading the blind.
Is your prospecting ability making your wealthy?
Team building is vital when joining a direct sales company. Developing leadership skills is the most important part of running your home business. Without the disciplines in place, failure is inevitable. Your prospecting is keeping you from having the wealth you want in the first 90 days of your network marketing business.
Most people give up within 3 months of joining a network marketing company.
There is hope for the average person who will take time to develop skills. Joining a company and having your own business must be seen as a 3-5 year project. Just hopping on board a company is like jumping onto a canoe heading down stream. Without oars, balance and direction, you’re headed for the “falls of failure and disappointment”.
Over half the prospecting you do makes you no money. This can look disappointing temporarily. 60% of all businesses fail within the first 90 days due to poor prospecting. But thankfully, with time, we can learn the skills of leadership in business.
What Does Your Prospecting Look Like?
What to do when your prospecting skills are poor.
When you have no experience in the business world, learning to prospect must be given it’s due diligence. Self development skills, belief, self confidence, having a chief aim or intention, and learning how to keep that intention before you must become routine.
Imagine your prospecting skills steadily increasing before you feel a need to give up Network Marketing.
When you decide to join a network marketing or direct sales company, remember that the personal development available is the most important part that you need. Having a supportive team with great mentors is vital. Your part is to be teachable. Without that teachability, you fall back into your old ways of poverty and victimhood.
Does Your Prospecting Attract The Right People
See yourself creating that wealthy lifestyle while increasing your prospecting ability.
There are some things to do to help yourself now to find a sponsor and company you can trust to help you make money in your network marketing company
Get referrals from someone you know, like and trust, before you join a company.
Within the first 30 days of joining, study the back office and see what is in place to help you learn what you need to succeed.
Ask your sponsor what system is in place and who is available to talk to if your sponsor can’t answer your questions.
Join a company you can relate to naturally.
Decide ahead of time that you will give yourself the time to develop your skills of leadership and salesmanship over time. Many take 3-5 years to learn well and create the income desired.
Join a company with a proven track record, a AAA rating, a trending product or service, and owners who’s families have been successful in past industries.
Leadership Prospecting Creates Wealth
To live a lifestyle of the rich and famous, we must change
the way we look at life, the way we look at people, and the way we see ourselves. Prospecting can be learned and with an investment in yourself and your company’s system, you can learn what is necessary to prosper financially. To be a good leader in a network marketing company and become rich, we must read, listen and learn from mentors, and others who have achieved the success we are after.
Be careful who you listen to. Not all leaders are good. Read good books, listen to the masters of business success like Napoleon Hill, Wallace Waddles, James Allen, Abraham Hicks among others. These greats have spent years teaching millions tried and true methods of leadership success.
Your sponsor should be aware of these coaches, trainers, books and products. As prospecting is the key to wealth, so is your teachability to become a leader others are willing to follow.
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My daughter shared an interesting article with me on Facebook. As we all do in social media and even offline, if something affects us emotionally, we share it; a good movie, a great beer, a great value, a new gadget or tool! Often times we learn how to parent from modeling others as well. We learn what to do and many times what not to do from our own parents or guardians. As an example of being one of those who likes to share the wisdom that we as adults declare we have, I share with you my view of this article.
Personally, when I read the first several paragraphs, I thought this writer was very bias and had no clue of a leaders perspective. I later realized that he was just building his case for the case studies he found that others declared was happening to children being raised from 2004-2013. In analysis of this article, I recorded my perspective so that you would not be left in the lurch as to how to fix the problem these supposed reports indicated.
Your children have ability to lead themselves after you learn the skills of leadership!
Parenting Your Children Correctly
Our parents did the best they could in raising us. Imagine if we knew how to raise emotionally healthy children. Do you believe you have the skills to help your children succeed and find satisfaction in life without begging, borrowing or stealing to get it? Honesty is a vital character quality. It begins at home. Some parents are pretty sly at being dishonest to get the teacher to chance a child’s grade. Other parents who don’t know the proper leadership principles use the governmental system to declare their children unable to take tests with a time frame attached. Writing notes and calling professors indicate a parent who is forcing a teacher to treat their child differently.
Undermining Your Children
There are things you may be doing to create children who feel inadequate
Make up stories about your children to cover up a mistake
Look a child in the eye to keep them from saying something in front of others
Go behind your children’s back to make the child feel inadequate
Lie on your income tax or when talking on the phone
Manipulate the system to get more governmental assistance
See others as “poor so in so”
Tell your children what to say when they have to call someone to explain a situation
Talk to your child daily about everything that’s going on in their day
Our children are meant to be leaders. Parents who are overly concerned about every little thing in their children’s life are generally making up for a lack of training in the early years. Unfortunately, many of us didn’t have parents with great leadership skills. We learned as we went and by the time we had some experience or learned some truth about how best to live, our little ones were teens. Too little too late, great people have troubled teens on their hands. Hoping they could get through to their children, they made a last ditch effort to share the wisdom they wished they had while they were young parents.
What values of Leadership are you teaching your children?
Leadership for Children
Do you find it hard to get on track with raising kids? I know a lot of well meaning parents whose kids are messed up. It’s sad. They are into drinking, drugs, wreckless driving, unemployment, unmotivated, aimless and more. Many young people head off to the military to get some aim in life. Those that stick with it feel secure in that lifestyle and don’t like to go home to the chaos of civilian life.
Parents must prepare, before they have children, to learn the skills of leadership over their own homes and businesses. We can raise leaders who see life with possibility and who feel great about their future . It takes knowledge and wisdom. Over concern and playing catch up is never good!
10 things you can do today to help your children become leaders are:
Read to your children
Homeschool if possible
When your children want to help, let them
When your child is curious, see this as initiative
If your child falls and gets hurt, help him right away
If you child has difficulty sleeping, investigate the true reason
Keep your children from watching horror films
Play inspiring music at home
Teach your child how to save money
Pay him money for jobs above and beyond the chores you set up for him/her
Parenting is an amazing opportunity and done correctly, you will develop a team that will pay to back over and over. Over concern is an anxiety emotion and shows a lack of trust on your part. A lack of trust in yourself, in your children, your spouse, your job, the government or whatever you attach the emotion to, you pass this anxiety on to your children when you don’t do things with the intention of a positive aim in life. This chief aim is necessary to get you and your children to a life of success and satisfaction you will be proud of in the end.
PS.Audio based on “A Nation Of Wimps” article in “Psychology Today” Feb 19, 2013. Article asserts hyper concerned parents creating fragile children who go into depression in their 30s.
When we are born, we protect ourselves with crying for food. We trust our gut because we have no experience to lean on, to analyze. As we get older we experience more and begin to analyze our past actions. We have parents to tell us to “be careful” and try to keep us safe.
Trust your gut and love yourself
Along the way, we may not trust our gut and decide to trust what others say. Or we may want to take chances beyond what is safe for us. Whether over cautious or foolish, we eventually manifest circumstances in life. Be they good or bad, we do all we can to adapt so we can feel pleasure and avoid pain.
As in sports, learn the skill, test the skill and then be ready to use the skill
Read books that speak independent of religion
Address your fears
Eliminate excuses
Be honestly aware of your “purpose”
Love yourself
Love others as you love yourself
Trust in a higher power that loves you unconditionally
Learning to trust your gut started in childhood. You are wise to get back to the source as you did then so you can begin to make decisions from your gut and along the way, gain wisdom from the mistakes you made when you didn’t follow it! Knowledge is power and leadership begins with trust.
Are you aware of how you react to negative comments from others? The world is filled with negativity. It seems like we can’t help but lash out when others come at us with their attitudes. Have you gotten to the point where you just want to leave your family, friends and environment and make a dramatic change in your life? If so, then you are at a great place. You are self aware! You see that your life can be better and you want that!
Shrinking Back From Negative People
Your Negative Neighbors
Do you become angry when you get negative criticism? Criticism is a low form of assistance others feel needs to be said. Realizing that negative people are all around us, we want to stop them from questioning our decisions. We become angry to protect ourselves from further attack. We have been given this protective mechanism from birth. Early on in life, we use this continually. By the time we are adults, a fully evolved personality we have mastered “anger” and found other forms of response that cause less anxiety to everyone concerned. But have you?
Shrinking Back From Negative Criticism
Your Own Negative Mindset
Do you shrink back when someone is negative towards you? Some of us decide to ignore others and this works for a while. But then an eruption occurs and often divorce is in the picture. Or possibly harm is done to another because ignoring a person’s criticism is not a long term solution.
Self Awareness In A Negative Environment
Self Awareness And The Negative Life
We can become aware that a long term solution is needed. When we do, doors of possibility seem to open up. We find a book that explains things. We hear a speaker that seems to talk directly to us. Being aware that we deserve a happy life, we seek for solutions. Self awareness is a gift we’re given and we ought to respect that gift!
Freedom From Negative Mindset
The Gift To Overcome Negative Criticism
Living as a self aware person, we begin to grow in a way that trees do: big, strong,powerful, giving shade to others, and fruit to many. This is the value we are all born with. Until we become self aware, we will use anger and shrinking back as mechanisms of protection. But our true nature is to grow prosperous and live productive lives.
Do you worry if you are choosing the right curriculum to homeschool your children?
I recently met Wendy Jensen, a homeschooler making a difference to many new to novice homeschool parents. On her fanpage Homeschooling from the heart, a concerned mom Angela commented on a post regarding “child led learning”. You may as well have commented yourself! When taking on homeschooling, there is a ton to learn. While I recommend a parenting class on leadership, the principles of leadership for homeschool parents is needed to eliminate the worry homeschool parents have when choosing “child led learning”.
Like many parents, we have to learn the kinds of curriculum available. We go to fairs and events. We talk to other parents and buy things without knowing if they are the best curriculum for each of our children. Many try books that work for one child and not another. It can add up to alot of frustration and worry.
Eliminating Worry In Our Homeschool
Books are great. They teach all aspects of a subject but there are some foundation principles homeschool parents get the privilege of teaching. As leaders of our family, success principles of leadership and responsibility must be demonstrated while subjects are taught. Wendy’s post about ‘Child Led Learning’ sparked a question from Angela.
Angela asks: “What exactly does that look like? Is that unschooling? I choose a curriculum that I believe suits Madison’s learning style, and there are subjects she needs to learn. I need clarity, b/c I really want her to love learning.”
How To Homeschool Kids With Child Led Learning?
The Character of Successful Homeschool Parents
‘Angela, while you homeschool Madison, their must be routine, discipline, passion, and desire.
Your character will shape her character.
1. By your love for learning, she will learn to love it too.
2. Forming habits, rituals, routines of every day life, you will be teaching her to “follow through”, which builds confidence.
3. By assisting her in choosing one thing to be passionate about at a time, you will encourage her to focus, a discipline necessary for “success”.
4. Desiring to homeschool her is the beginning of your living with “purpose” and “power” over one’s own life. You are an entrepreneur! To many, this is “going against the grain” seen my others as “rebellious”. However, it is simply a decision to take responsibility for your life and your children’s education.”
We are given that responsibility and many have given up that freedom to the public or private school system.
These 4 skills are the foundation for your children’s successful future.
Do a good job with these leadership principles and you’re on your way to a bright and happy future! One day, Madison and your own children will come back to you and “thank you” for teaching them the disciplines of a successful homeschool!
Warning:Increase Awareness When Baking For Teenage Daughters
My Daughters And Eating
Our teens are watching us! What we eat, they eat! What we cook, they cook! Maybe not tomorrow but as adults, they will follow our lead! Teaching our teen daughters to dress may be your first priority. “Are you going to wear that to school”?, you might ask. Well, what about what they are buying in the cafeteria? Are you concerned about that?
Teaching Our Daughters To Cook And Bake
Our daughters are so cute as babies. We feed them anything to get a giggle or grin out of them. Grandma’s especially like to feed them cookies and ice cream. While this is adorable, it sets our little darlings up for bad habits and addictions.
So What Should I Feed My Daughters?
We generally feed them what our mom fed us! Sadly, food choices have changed dramatically and preservatives and substitutes are causing weight gain for many young daughters.
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Warning:Increase Awareness When Baking For Teenage Daughters
Raising our daughters is our responsibility. They are our legacy! They may come back to you later in life and thank you or “curse you” for being a hippocrate or even worse, a poor example!
Our daughters will be as wise, smart, and intelligent as their parents. It’s been said, “if your daughter goes to college and then stays home and raises her children, she is just wasting her degree.” This is an absolute mistake. Daughters who study for 4 years, learn many things. At the very least, they learn how to seek knowledge, to take tests, write papers, and study for exams. Of course, they learn how to work as a team, to obey instructions, to honor professors, and establish friendships. All of these are advanced skills and our daughters can become excellent parents after graduating from college.
Unfortunately, there are some skills not taught even in college. Primarily we call them “leadership skills” and “wealth training” skills. Of course, there are many students who enter college with some of these skills and it makes them all the more prepared to achieve high ranks in their careers and an ability to create wealth.
Educating Our Daughters
As parents, we have been given the responsibility to teach our children manners, civil duties, and morality. Leadership begins at home. There are some daughters who become dishonest employers. There are some women who are morally corrupt! Telling a lie here and their, they promote themselves over others. This little bit of error in judgment can bring our daughters to ruin later on in life!
Help For Daughters
Our daughters need us! The world has many obstacles in the way of understanding how to be a leader over our bodies, minds and moral life. We are not totally corrupt. But there are parts of us that need help throughout our lives to become the kind of daughter we are proud of. Let’s help our daughters see someone special in the mirror each day. Lets teach them to cook and bake and eat healthy so they’ll stay fit and trim. Let’s lead them on a healthy path their children, and your grandchildren, will one day tread.
