Category: Leadership

Mar 05

How To Explain “Definite Chief Aim” To Children

What is your Definite Chief Aim? by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

 

What is a Definite Chief Aim?

Definite Chief Aim is another way of saying “our purpose”. Stephen Covey said “Think with the end in mind”, when you write down your purpose for living. Teaching our children to create a purpose statement will help them to go more directly to the success that is their birthright.

We as parents can stimulate our children to organize  and direct to a definite end the forces of his or her mind  thus harnessing the stupendous power which most people waste in spasmatic purposeless thought.

Singleness of purpose is essential for success no matter what may be ones idea of the definition of success. This calls for thought on many allied subjects as a fighter must learn many types of punches and exert himself in many forms of exercise to win the match.

The punching bag for speed and eye coordination, running for leg strength, proper food, and other forms of strength building to make him well rounded and ready to win in every battle.
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The Battle For Achieving Your Definite Chief Aim

So do we need to stimulate our children regarding the training of their mind  that will give them the needed information to grant them success in the battle of life.

The mind needs to develop success steps by habit and repetition using a variety of thought inspiring stimuli. Hopefully as you read and study this series of leadership posts for the benefit of your children,  it  will stimulate ideas for your own leadership education.

To get an in depth study of these principles, you may want to get a copy of “Think And Grow Rich” by Napolean Hill.

In sharing these principles with your children, both parent and child need take the stand that no man knows enough about any worthwhile subject to entitle him to feel that he has the last word on that subject.

It is wise and honest that we wipe out ignorance and make way for some of the useful truths of life.

Being Teachable While Pursuing Your Definite Chief Aim

Humility is a for-runner of success. Until we become humble in our own heart, we are not apt to benefit from the thoughts and experiences of others.

Training ourselves and our children to be teachable will take us much further in life. As parents, forcing children to do things teaches them to compete for power. Rather, explaining to our children the benefits of listening  only to those who have what we want and are the kind of person we want to become, we are helping them tremendously.

The bottom line is that our children need to develop a mindset that includes the value of having a definite chief aim in life. Using the examples of our heroes, our children should write down the way they want to be remembered when they die.

While this may seem daunting to you, children have great imaginations and can come up with plenty of ways they want to be remembered. This forms their definite chief aim in life.

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An Exercise To Establish Your Definite Chief Aim

Perhaps the both of you can do an exercise. Take 20 minutes and on white lined paper take a blue pen and  answer this question, “Why am I here?”.

As you keep writing reasons why you are here, you will see similarities and after a while, your sentences will become more clear and simpler. When you have written for about 20 minutes, you should have a very good sentence you can post in your journal, on notes around your home, in your car, locker, notebook or inside your bike helmet or on your mirror.

This is your definite chief aim. Any child who comes up with one and aims to reach for that purpose will have an extremely high chance of achieving that purpose.

This will help your child to be a leader over his life.

  • Peers will not shake him.
  • Obstacles will be only temporary setbacks.
  • He’ll look for friends to help him get to that end.

The shortest distance between 2 points is a straight line and a chief aim helps us get to where we are headed as if it were a magnet drawing us to it.

Help your child become the leader over his own life. Help him or her write his purpose statement and share yours with him. In humility, you will both become accountable to each other through life as you reach for that definite chief aim!

 

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Mar 04

How Do I Teach My Children The Value Of Dreaming?

Teaching Your Children The Value Of Dreaming by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

 Today’s recording is a Christmas story by Louisa May Alcott, called “The Christmas Dream and How It Came True”.

What does dreaming do?

Our children are dreaming about  growing up some day. When they leave our home, they will have learned what they can from us. They will take with them the training from teachers, pastors, Sunday school lessons, coaches, club leaders and friends.

As parents, we generally first take care of our children’s physical needs. Then we may bring them to church to guide them in faith. What many parents disregard is the child’s mental health. By this I mean their thought life. Most parents never read personal development book or leadership books until college. Then it was most often for the purpose of satisfying general education classes.

Happiness Inside Can Bring Money Outside

Happiness Inside Can Bring Money Outside

Did you learn about dreaming when you were in school?

If parents even went to college they went for a good grade to keep up their GPA. This lack of understanding of the value of developing their thought life purposefully is perhaps only taught to psych students and perhaps philosophy students. I personally didn’t take “business” classes in college and I would hope that they are now teaching the psychology of sales and reading people.

So this is why as parents, many miss this part of developing their children’s minds.
Most parents warn their children to “stop dreaming” and keep their feet on earth! Children with ADHD are cautioned to take medicine for such “disorders” when their little entrepreneurs are natural dreamers and would do well if teachers helped them discipline their minds without keeping them from the natural process of dreaming about things.

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Your Children Leaders First Steps To Success

What value is there in dreaming?

The value of dreaming is what adults have to re connect with when deciding to take responsibility for their futures. Our children are naturally self centered. So what do we do to help them? We encourage them to dream!

Yes, dreaming of what they would like to do, where they would like to go, how they want to be seen as adults, are the necessities of the leader entrepreneur.

If you want your children to find their own way in life, encourage them to dream. Guide them toward what kind of dreams they should consider pondering.

1. The kind of work they want to do
2. The place they want to live
3. The car they want to drive
4. The people they want to meet
5. The way they want their bodies to look
6. The friends they want to have
7. The kind of person they want to marry

This is just the beginning of guiding our children. Though we are famous for judging the things our children while comparing them to others, we need to stop that!

We live in a world of unlimited possibilities. Our children are brought up in society to believe they must compete for that Job, position, house, girl, boy, etc… but competition is NOT what we need to teach our kids.

Do you feel like you are missing out?

Do you feel like you are missing out?

Today’s recording is a Christmas story by Louisa May Alcott, called “The Christmas Dream and How It Came True”.

While listening to this story, notice the mother who helped fulfill the dream her child had. This is an excellent example of 3 things.
1. Children have dreams
2. Parents need to share the kinds of dreams that can become a reality for their children.
3. Children entrepreneurs are individuals. They may be in school and being taught to “conform” to the norm. While this is necessary to keep order in a school setting, parents would help their children by encouraging their children to write down their dreams in a journal and keep writing daily.

Your children’s future is in your hands for about 15 years at most. By that time, they are making most of their decisions on their own. Let’s help them make wise decisions that will grant them a happy, healthy, prosperous future!

 

Hear the whole series on leadership for children

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Feb 26

Top Tips On No Longer Being Pressured! Where Does Your Inspiration Come From?

Do You Allow Others To Genetically Modify YOU? Truth About Inspiration and Motivation. by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

What kind of inspiration gets you taking action?

I use to dislike listening to some people trying to inspire me. Why?  Because while they might have motivated me, they did not add inspiration to my life. I don’t know about you but true change happens naturally in me when the true intention of an inspirational person is to add value to my authentic self. Time tells the truth!

How do motivation and inspiration differ?

When I would go to my companies conferences, the energy in the room was very motivating. However, because of my mindset, I felt like I was competing for a place on stage. Yes, I love being on stage and saying something profound! Who wouldn’t?

If you don’t want to, perhaps you don’t feel like what you have to say is important enough to share. Or maybe you just don’t feel like sharing!

What form of inspiration motivates you?

Ever since I was little, I competed for attention in my family of 7 children. I gave up many times when my brothers would either get in trouble or get hurt. I on the other hand became quiet. I didn’t want to get hurt or get in trouble in order to get attention. I wanted the attention I got because of me being me! It was rare that I got noticed.

It was when I did well in Art and got an award that I’d get attention. It was when my parents got me involved in horseback riding that I got attention. I would have loved to continue in that but it ended way to early to suit me.

Unfortunately, I longed for inspiration and attention for the right reasons but I didn’t feel I got it the way I wanted it. When my parents had a party and they were all living it up, my parents would pressure me to play piano. I was so not proficient at playing and felt like that was NOT the way I wanted to get attention.

If I was asked to come over and share what I liked to do for fun, I may have been able to express that with proficiency but playing an instrument that I only learned a  short time before  was asking me to share my imperfections and I just couldn’t bear that! You see, I knew when I was good at something! Pressuring a child to do something is not inspirational but causes children to mistrust their parents with their value. As a parent, inspire your children by sharing with them personally the potential you see in them, in their smile, in the way they write or draw. Truth sets children free! Feeling free is very inspirational.

When I was a bit older and could really throw a baseball, if my mom or dad would have asked me to show them how well I could throw it, I totally would have felt the inspiration to become even better.

You see, the attention I wanted was validation of who I was, not what I did. In all of us, we long for validation. However, something grand occurred in me as an adult with many years of living. I realized that I didn’t want anyone who didn’t truly value me to share life with me.

The natural course of things went as follows.

  • I talk to you.
  • You get to know me.
  • I see if I can trust you.
  • You show me either yes or no.
  • I talk to you further if I feel good about you.
  • You then can share with me the things you see in me that are valuable.
  • I then decide whether I will receive your comments.

This is where I am in life.

  • I am inspired by those I can trust.
  • Those who have written books that tell me more about my value.
  • I like when I can decide for myself whether I will receive their inspiration.
  • If you want to motivate me, you better know me well.

Of course, when we’re at a party and we’re all hanging out, if you ask me to take a “shot” of something, most likely I won’t! I dislike being pushed.

The natural course of things goes as follows:

If there is alcohol at a party and I feel like having some, I will.

If not, I won’t!

Period!

End of story!

Who's Genetically Engineering YOU?

Who’s Genetically Engineering YOU?

You won’t inspire me! Why?

I have given license to people in the past who hurry me to make a decision or I will miss out on an opportunity. I no longer do that! They use “scarcity” as a mental tactic. The root of this technique leans on those who have a poverty mentality and is absolute deceit. I absolutely have experienced this and have learned something wonderful that has helped me eliminate the need to “rush” into absolutely anything unless I am truly and honestly inspired to do it. It came from the book “The Science of Getting Rich” by Wallace Waddles.

The universe doesn’t respond to your reality. It responds to your perception of reality. When you deliberately take an emotional journey, you offer a vibration that causes law of attraction to respond to you differently. Abraham Hicks

I cannot be motivated by pressure any longer.

I became free of this with knowledge I learned over time through books and resources I read.

I now record my inspirational moments and share the resources they come from. Many come from posters on Facebook. Some come from Mindset Daily calls. Others come when I’m on my Think and Grow Rich calls.

Gone are the days of ignorance and excuses. I will not allow anyone to genetically modify my authentic journey. While trusting only sources of true inspiration, nor should you! 

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Feb 04

The Framework For Success – The Basic Framework To Achieve The Life You Want

 

A Framework is a basic structure by which success is built!

 

To achieve success in business, a person may go to school to gain skills but there is a framework that

true happiness must be built on.

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There are 4 things we must do to build the framework for success in business and life.

 

1. Love the creator (God, universe, etc..)
2. Love yourself
3. Love others
4. Live by the golden rule

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Framework Is Key For success

These simple steps I expound upon here are the basics for success in business. To many love is a personal word and has no bearing in business. Understandably so, love is to many the reason they live. Business is a vehicle by which they give things to those they love. However, many have grown up with a poor framework of love.

1. They began life in pain
2. They had little training in loving and nurturing themselves
3. They didn’t know how to overcome obstacles at each stage of life
4. They became adults with little knowledge of control of their emotions

What is the best success principle we can strive for to love ourselves?

Discover the truth about this from a babies viewpoint.

1. Babies cry
2. Babies work without stopping
3. Babies see love or pain
4. Babies either believe in themselves or believe in others

Adults need a framework for success.

Without the basics a successful life will bypass them.

A book like “Be Free From Fear Audios” contain ideas about how to find success. In the recording and commentaries, I share the secrets of success that I learned in overcoming the negative mindset I learned as a young girl.

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Jan 02

How Do I Inspire My Children To Be Leaders? Stories That Teach Your Children Leaders

“The Fir Tree” by Hans Christian Anderson read by Caryn Elizabeth by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

Do you look for books and stories that help to make your children leaders in school?

Do your children have teachers in school to help them become leaders? Leadership is a taught skill and begins with discipline early in life. Learning leadership skills through literature that teaches life lessons is a great start for the young children leaders in the making!

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Your Children Leaders First Steps To Success

Children raised to go hither and yon at every whim and fancy have at the end of that route a long way to go to turn around and achieve success. Children need freedom within discipline. When I taught at Village Montessori, my young three to five year olds were taught a concept first and then allowed to pursue the material when they wished. Creating entrepreneurs can begin early when they understand the rules for success.

Many children’s leadership skills are not developed early enough and these children are regretting life left and right when they finally get out on their own.

Children Leaders Are Both Male and Female

Children Leaders Are Both Male and Female

Make Your Children Leaders With Great Books

Reading great stories that teach lessons in good leadership help children model behavior that becomes skill for life. Books like “The Fir Tree” by Hans Christian Anderson teach a lesson in regret. Children leaders who have parents with desire to help students advance more quickly to leadership will find this book filled with examples of the wrong way of thinking so as to help them see things in their own life where they have missed the mark for happiness.

Top Tips To Create Children Leaders

  • Children require loving discipline
  •  They need confident, consistent parenting
  •  Children leaders must have freedom to pursue passions
  •  These young leaders will shine in their later years of high school when proper leadership development is taught
  •  Leadership is a skill that all adults who desire to succeed in life need to learn.
  •  Schools are not equipped to teach leadership to the degree that parents can.
  •  It is a parents responsibility to teach leadership to their children.

 

Teach Lessons In Leadership That Help Your Children Leaders

Teach Lessons In Leadership That Help Your Children Leaders

I’ve created the following recording as a sample of how parents can help their children develop leadership skills early on. The reading of “The Fir Tree” is the first of several books in a series that teach children leadership.

Help Children Leaders to grow up to be confident successful men and women. This audio is 29 minutes long with a teaching at the end. You can use this as an example of how to help your children think further about the story.

To get more audios to help you develop your children leaders, GO HERE NOW.

 

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Sep 30

Finding Likeminded Friends On Facebook – Would You Like Me?

Are you on Facebook for business or is it just for spying on your family, friends and co workers?

I’m sure you’ve watched Facebook change over time from just  a social platform for college students to meet guys and girls, to an extremely excellent way to monetize a business and has changed the way people connect, buy  and learn new things. Employers and employment agencies actually check profiles of those prospective employees to see how they handle themselves in a social setting. I would hope that is not the only basis they go on but plenty of individuals should know that the comments they allow their friends to leave on their walls could contribute to the job they get.

 

 

Being Real, Sharing from my heart, desiring to impact your life for good, Facebook is one social media where i can share my passion and help you if you want some help with the practical details that make life great! Connect with me at http://www,facebook.com/carynelizabethlive

 

Facebook for Business

What kind of skills do you have to offer others?

If you are using Facebook to generate leads for your home business, network marketing business or direct sales business, there is a right way and a wrong way to use Facebook. You will want to learn the right way if this is a new platform for marketing your network marketing company or your own home business. Over the years, I’ve experienced people using their personal profile pages to share their business opportunities. That’s the quickest way to loose friendships and get banned from your family!

But it doesn’t have to be that way forever.  With your life skills and work experience,  you can make an impact on your friends and family  and make money using Facebook.  Good business best practices need to be learned. Mari Smith teaches all the best practices but you ought to also learn relationship etiquette.

Blogging And Facebook

The learning curve is pretty steep but with a good teacher, you can have a blog up and running in a couple months, given you spend a couple hours a week setting it up. Want to know more about WordPress? I have a series of training videos that helped me get started.  Many fail because they haven’t the stamina to endure it.  Those who persevere  know to seek  ongoing training. With definite purpose and a business worth sharing, the results can be phenomenal.

Mentors are great to help you learn what you would otherwise have to go to college and pay tuition to learn. In order to become trusted as an authority, mentors learn to develop leadership skills to gain your trust and business. As you may have seen, good leaders understand how to develop friendships online as they would working offline.

Using advocacy as a networking tool, leaders are just skilled individuals who learned how to get what they want without doing harm to others. Anyone can be a leader if they learn the skills of leadership!

Do you realize that network marketing businesses are the only style of business where you must  help  other team members succeed in order to succeed yourself?

Are you the kind of Facebook friend you would want to build a friendship with?

Facebook Networking Support

Do You Need Support While Learning Leadership on Facebook? Daily inspiration was a great help to me. Having that support in masterminding or just having an audio to listen every few days gave me some direction I could look forward to each week. It was the consistent and persistent effort of a mentor that really made the difference for me!

If we want to learn how to use Facebook to build a large business or just a network of like-minded friends,  we must do at least these 6 things:

  • set an intention,
  • be driven by a great desire,
  • set up a business plan
  •  get ongoing  training.
  • study personal development
  • develop leadership skills

Personal development is the key to overcoming obstacles keeping you in the low income bracket! Reading good books and audios helped me to take control of my fear possessed past when I was faced with divorce. It was because of the powerful books like “As A Man Thinketh” and “The Science Of Getting Rich” that made the biggest impact on my mindset.

To connect further, find me on Facebook Here.

PS. If you are retiring and want to create some income with your spare time, Geri Walker’s interview may set you in a good direction using Facebook groups.

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Sep 28

4 Elements Of High Performance The Wealthy Man Practices

4 Elements Of High Performance You Need To Become Wealthy by Caryn Elizabeth on Mixcloud

 

High Performance means being driven by passion and excellence. 

Have You Ever Wanted To Know How You can get ahead in life?

People who grow up in homes where parents have advanced leadership skills tend to become leaders like their parents. Teaching our children leadership skills will help them create a lifestyle of high performance and wealth.

 

Leaders in High Performance

Men and women who become wealthy want to get it right and maintain a level of energy that keeps up their success momentum. They want to do something meaningful with their life and often desire to serve others. They do things in a certain way, with the intention of reaching for the vision they plant in their mindset. With intensity, they do all their activities believing that their dreams will come true.

Are You Running At High Performance?

The four elements of high performance are:

 

  1.  Psychology
  2.  Physiology
  3.  Productivity
  4.  Persuasion

The underlying foundation of this is Purpose.

High Performance and Influence

If we become wealthy, we will have influence and can contribute greatly to the happiness of others.   High performers like Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Brendon Burchard, Tony Robbins and the other great men and women you read about or watch on video all exhibit these leadership skills. High performance is available to anyone who will find their purpose and pursue their life serving others. What is your purpose?

More help being a leader who desires the values of high performance

 

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